What Matters Most... Reflections of Life

Often my reflecting is done over a cup of tea in the early morning dawn of a bright new day, such as today. I'm sitting at my computer writing about the events of the past several weeks, when I realize, none of these events have a long term effect on day-to-day life. While they impacted my life over the past few weeks, they're past history and nothing of them matters anymore.

Defeatist attitude? Not really, I've been thinking along the lines of what does matter lately. Philosophically, I've grasped a good lot of detail about what matters in my own life, but I've been asked by others how they might find balance. It's not an easy answer... But I do have an answer.

1. Look back over your life for those "freeze frame moments" and write them down.

These are the moments that get stuck in your mind. They linger long after they're passed and gone, in vivid living color memories that you don't have to ask anyone about, or have to try to remember. These are the moments that pop into existence based on how they impacted you at the moment.

My grandparent's home had always been a haven for me. When my grandfather died Christmas morning of 1971, I remember sitting in a corner of the living room, the adults in my family bickering over the "things" in the house, and realizing that the place wasn't the haven, it was the family. That moment revealed to me that I was no longer SAFE in that place.

2. Find your current comfort zone and the pace you prefer to live and write it down.

This is the spirit in which you reveal your intimate self existence and how you cope with daily living. The more comfortable you feel in this existence, the more readily you'll adapt to life in general, if your life flows out from this place.

As my children grow up and begin to leave home, I'm finding more and more that I enjoy the time I spend working. When my children were young, I loved going places with them, doing mommy duty and sharing the load of life with the kids, just being a parent. But as they grow up, I find I'm more and more comfortable re-entering the work place. I like my professional life.

3. Locate your source of energy and determine if you're an active part of that source and how it effects your life.

The source of energy in your life will most probably be an outside force. Religious experiences, spiritual realms, or potential self growth patterns come from this force of existence that energizes your being. It may be something as simple as the time of day or a location that inspires you.

Inspiration for me comes with the sunrise. It has never mattered where I am, if I have an east facing window, I'm a happy girl. I love the sunrise. I love writing about it. I absolutely adore the experience of knowing God has given me a brand new day to mess up in any way I choose. Isn't he an awesome God?

So where is it you're going in this world? Do you know what matters most? Do you have a reflection of life that you're interested in standing on for the rest of your life?

Find your focus and be who you want to be.